I have not been on this blog for quite some time and was really needing to vent somewhere. Since I an pretty sure only family are following me or a few close friends, I think it will be ok to say on here what is going on in my life since the last time I posted. Since it was the first of the year, here goes.
In March, Brandon decided to take the step to quit drinking for good. He is now almost 7 months sober. We are still taking it one day at a time. He has found a group in which he can belong and it has really helped him to maintain sobriety. He is a completely different person and our house is more calm.
The kids graduated in May from high school. Kayla moved out on her own in August. She is being a "big" girl and making big girl decisions, without the knowledge of a big girl. She signed a one year lease on the apartment and did not think about how expensive it could be. I give her props for attempting to "try" this on her own. I never moved from my parents house until I got married.
Tyler however, wants to stay a kid forever. He even said when school started that going back to high school would be easier than getting a job. With this economy, he may be right. LOL He keeps picking up applications, filing them out partially and then not turning them in. I think her went through this phase when he was in middle school. Very frustrating as a parent. We will eventually "force him" to get a job. We just have so much other things going on right now, that we have not forced the issue.
We found out last week that we are going to be grandparents. Yes, you heard that right. GRANDPARENTS. We are not happy about it, but we are supporting the decision that was made to keep the child. This is another of the "big girl" decisions that has been made. However, while she is attempting to do the right thing with this child, she is not thinking past today. Which is where I say she does not have the knowledge she needs to be making these decisions. You know that she will have a baby sometime in the spring, and that is "still almost a year away" Like, I can think about that another time. I think this is not a procrastination thing, you have to plan once you know you are pregnant, you can't wait until 6 months to think about where you are going to live, where you are going to put your baby to sleep and how you are going to afford to feed it. This is why babies should not have babies. She is talking to a friend who is telling her about all of the great programs you can get on through the state. Problem is she makes too much money to qualify for the great stuff her friend gets because her friend does not work and does not have a diploma. But until she talks to me about what is going to happen she will continue to think it is all going to be a great party where someone else is going to pay for you. Oh, you might ask what does the father of the child to be do? NOTHING, but he is going to be there for her. No job, no car, ambition to even get either of the above. Thanks for listening to my rant.
